BWW Blog: Emily Fletcher - You Are Stronger Than Your Resistance
I want you to take a second and get really honest, think back to December 31st of 2016. Maybe you did an afternoon of journaling. Maybe you simply made a few 'notes to self' on the notepad app on your iPhone. Either way, I want you to think about your intentions, goals, and resolutions that you set for yourself, now ask, "How much action have I taken so far this year to make this happen?"
If the answer is 'not enough', then we've got to talk. And what we've got to talk about is resistance.
What is resistance? Resistance is the thing that keeps you from doing the stuff you know you're on this planet to do.
Now I get that we are all multi-passionate, and we probably have lots of things we want to do. All of us want to look super hot. All of us want to finish writing that script. All of us want to make it to three auditions a day. All of us want to finally book that job. But there's one problem- not many of us do the work it takes to get there.
So... why not?
The answer? Resistance.
What is resistance? It is not fear of failure. For most of us it is fear of success.
Many of us think that hesitation comes from our fear of failure. We're afraid that we will start a project that may not work then everyone will judge us for trying and failing.
I'm suggesting is that resistance is actually our fear of success. Success can be far more terrifying than failure because if we actually write that play, if we actually go to the gym every day, if we actually book that job... Then what?
If we achieve success then we get held accountable to that. Not just by ourselves- but by our friends, our families, or even strangers will now expect us to live up to this new level of greatness. There is a story that plays in the mind that tells us people won't like us if we really step into our full power.
That kind of pressure or expectation can make you never want to begin. But hear me when I say this. Stagnation is far more dangerous than creation. The ever repeating known is the most dangerous place there is. Yes, creating things is hard work, birthing things can be painful. The more you want it, the more resistance usually shows up. Do it anyway.
Let's talk about how resistance shows up in our daily lives.
Scheduling gym time on your calendar, but staying at work late instead? That is a form of resistance.
Saying that you're going to write a musical, but never actually scheduling the time to sit down and write it? That is a form of resistance.
So, what I want to remind you of today, is that you are stronger than your resistance. You know those desires? Those things that you really want, that you journal about, that you stay up late fantasizing about? They are divinely inspired.
Nature put your desires there. Nature wants to create them. Nature also gave you the tools you need to bring them into the manifest.
You deserve the best, but you have to claim it. You have to move past the resistance, you have to remind yourself that you ARE, in fact, stronger than your resistance.
So, how do you move past it?
Give yourself permission. Simply decide that you're allowed to be 'that person.' Remind yourself, the thing you want has actually been reserved for you all along, with a neon sign flashing your name. Decide to feel the fear and do it anyway, it's not even your desire, it's simply the next step in nature's plan.
Get a buddy . Schedule it, actually write it down on your calendar and show up for it. Get a writing partner, an acting partner, a meditation buddy, or a workout buddy.
Make a Bet You could also wager on yourself. Let's say you want to get on a stage-any stage-by the end of the year. Write a check for whatever amount has some significance to you, and give it to your friend. By the end of the year, if you haven't done it, your friend gets to deposit that check.
So, here's your homework. Every time you're about to do the thing- go to the gym, learn that song, read that script, learn a business plan, and you decide to get on Facebook instead? I want you to look at your resistance and say, "Resistance, you've got nothing on me. Because nature? She has my back."