Light As Air at The Kosciuszko Foundation

As we are all perfectly aware, the virtual world is accommodating people’s desire to engage online to a massive extent. The ways have gotten so much more sophisticated. Oftentimes, when people click on a video on YouTube, the first thing they do is scroll right down to the comments section, passing up the actual video, just to see the masses’ two cents on a certain topic. 

We all have a desire to base our perception of things on how we see other people react. We may love a particular rock band already, but when we get to a concert, we can’t help but enjoy how other people in the crowd react and whether they really like it too. We have a serious instinct to adapt to the herd, and the way society reacts to certain content validates and affects our own perception of it.

People also love to have their voices heard. Many of them compete to see who can make the funniest joke or add the wittiest quote to the comment section. A lot of the topics we consume online are also the phenomena that resonate most with us. So when we get regular notifications of responses to our own comments, they can really get under our skin, or inspire us to pursue a further bond with somebody who had something nice to say.

A Way to Relax, or Doomscroll?

One of the main reasons people decide to go onto social media is to kick back and take a load off after their stressful daily lives, which might be lonely or boring. It is pretty enjoyable to watch a cute kitten or some stupid person embarrass themselves. There’s a problem with that. The emotions aren’t of the pleasant variety in the comment sections. People get irritated and smug, and it rubs off on you. You start getting worked up and end up feeling worse than before you visited.

Anxiety

Sometimes you come because you’re feeling ill at ease, but it’s right at these times, while you’re already captured by that negativity, that your reticular activation system locks you in on the hostile and provocative comments. They feel strangely compelling, as if staying informed or morally alert will offer you protection. 

But in reality, you’re absorbing dozens of unfiltered reactions without the social cues like their tone, facial expressions, and the context. You often perceive them as worse than they really are. Some of those people are just venting and using that as an avenue to release their own stress.

If what you really need is an outlet, there are much more effective ways to blow off steam:

1. Playing a few hands of poker

2. Trying out the adult-oriented photo undressing app Clothoff

3. Inviting over some friends to play Call of Duty

4. Going to the park for some basketball

5. Watching a comedy TV series

Intermittent Rewards

On the whole, most people’s comments aren’t even all that interesting. A lot of them are cliches like “Still watching in 2026” or pretty dull, repetitive ones like “Nice video”. But then, once in a while, you come across some comments that are legit funny. You even come across quote people leave that are deeply moving. Some people manage to express your views in ways you couldn’t put into words yourself.

Uncertainty

This is what makes it good. You can’t predict when one of them is going to hit home for you. It’s the same mechanism that social media feeds operate on. If every single comment was wowing you, it wouldn’t explode your dopamine in the same way. 

It’s actually a gamble – a lot of the comments you come across could really piss you off, and you could end up wasting days on end arguing with people furiously. Other times, you will get to feel holier than thou for your political moralism. 

Confirmation of Your Opinions

Someone else voicing your opinion makes you feel good too. You gain the sense that you are educating people. If on top of that you also get a bunch of people liking it and replies, that’s a whole other level. These are basically tiny little signals of approval or rejection. 

The Engagement of Toxic Comments

We all respond well to pleasant motivation, but nothing gets into your head like negativity. The reason is our brains are hard-wired to respond most acutely to tension. These comments trigger our fight-or-flight response, a threat. When you’re arguing with that jerk online, it becomes a whole story with sides, stakes, and escalation. 

You start keeping score on who’s winning, being unfair, or who’s being totally oblivious. You don’t even have to be taking part to emotionally react in all of these. Unlike the original content, which has already played out, the content continues endlessly in the comments.

  Negativity simply carries more weight than positivity, since it feels more urgent. Outrage is sticky. That’s why it’s so common for people to not even care about the content but just care how the outrage is going to play out and watch the drama.