Barrett Wilbert Weed from Mean Girls stage door incident- Page 2

[EthelMae]

Posted: 3/8/20 at 9:54pm

Irv Kupcinet (Kup’s Show, in Chicago) Yes, but Betty you do belong to the public.

 

Lauren Bacall: No we don’t belong to the public. Why do you think we belong to the public?

 

Kup: Well, your name is in the press and your publicity depends...

 

Lauren Bacall: But that has nothing to do with my private life. My private life belongs to me. When I decided to be an actress, I did not sign a piece of paper relinquishing my rights to privacy. When people follow me down the street or see where I live, I mean I think that’s disgusting and it’s a very prevalent problem we have.

 

-1984

[mailhandler777]

Posted: 3/9/20 at 12:01am

Sutton Ross said: "That's awful, I'm so glad they are not stage dooring right now, people need to stop with the entitlement and thinking it's part of a price of purchasing a ticket."

Almost all the shows that I walked by today had barricades up and people were still coming out and signing. All the leads did at Mean Girls except Barrett of course. 

[Sutton Ross]

Posted: 3/9/20 at 12:41am

That's cool, but I expect that to change in the next few weeks. 

[VintageSnarker]

Posted: 3/9/20 at 3:39am

hork said: "I'm fully on her side except where she said "women don't get to have boundaries." This isn't a gender issue at all. It could have easily happened to a man and probably does very often. She should have said "actors don't get to have boundaries," which is absolutely true."

I will never forget a woman bursting through the stage door crowd at Waitress to kiss Chris Diamantopoulos and then running back into the crowd triumphantly. It was chilling.

The stage door can be a wonderful avenue to reaffirm another person's humanity and value or it can be the opposite. I know she's speaking from a place of pain but it feels wrong for BWW to suggest that the stage door is an inherently toxic environment. Like most things, it's what people choose to make of it.

[fashionguru_23]

Posted: 3/9/20 at 8:21am

While no performer owes anyone anything outside of their performance in the show, part of me wonders how much of the press this is getting is because of who this is. Barrett Wilbert Weed has had some rumours around her as not being the easiest person. So, while she makes valid points and is 100% allowed and should say what she needs to say, it feels a little 'sticky" to me to have it this come from her. 

[yankeefan7]

Posted: 3/9/20 at 9:25am

"Now, I have worked at some shows with a very heavy fan base such as Beetlejuice. And, one of the comments I hear time and time again is that an actor is rude, or even going so far as to say they aren’t good people for brushing the audience away at the stage door. If any actor in a show wishes to leave via the stage door, there is zero obligation for them to stop and sign. It’s like folks thing that they are entitled to autographs in addition to seeing the show, just like the woman who kicked Fishers car because he didn’t sign. People have gone overboard with the waiting at the stage door thing."

People on this board know better than me but I think for the most part people are decent and behave. It is the few idiots who cause problems and get all the attention. If I was an actor, I think I would be one of those who did the stage door thing once in awhile but not after every show. The coronavirus issue going around may be the thing that stops stage dooring because I could see shows wanting to do everything to keep their actors healthy. Finally, very sad that this young lady had to put up with that BS.

[janetsnakehole]

Posted: 3/25/20 at 7:20pm

I completely agree with the majority of what she said. She absolutely doesn't owe anyone anything and she's been clear that she doesn't stage door and any real fans would be understanding of that. I've spent a decent amount of stagedoor time telling people a certain actor doesn't come out and if they get upset I waste no time in telling them they bought a ticket that entitles them to a performance only, not a specific actor, not an autograph, not a photo, etc....just the performance. Which they should be grateful to get since there are broadway fans all over who never even get to go to broadway to see shows.

However, it wasn't appropriate of her to generalize by saying all actors dislike/are scared by stagedooring...that's definitely not the case. A friend of mine who is a broadway actor absolutely loves to stagedoor. On the final performance of my favorite show some friends and I were standing off to the side waiting for a couple other friends because we were just too sad to actually stagedoor, and one of the actors finished up and came around and walked right to us, gave us all hugs, and thanked us for coming so often and told us that the cast realized how special the show was when they saw people like us come back time after time and it meant the world to them. I ended up seeing an understudy on two different occasions and I told her at the stagedoor how great she was and how happy I was to see her again and she couldn't believe I had seen her the previous week and gave me a hug. Two of my all-time favorite actors have actually asked if they could hug me and one actually messaged me on twitter telling me how sweet I was. However, the crazies really ruin it for us normal people who just want a chance to thank our favorite actors. I had to tell a girl at one stagedoor that she needed to just calm the f down and treat the actor like a human because she was being ridiculous (bet everyone can guess what summer show that was lol). All my theatre friends have had experiences like this and I've witnessed random people having them as well, and it's lovely. The actors obviously aren't all scared. So while I completely understand where Barrett is coming from and that her post was obviously made in justified anger, it was a little cruel of her to insinuate stagedooring is a completely awful experience for all actors. I can't imagine how awful it is to have some random person throw themselves on you or stop you and think they're entitled to your time, however, the majority of broadway fans do know how to act. She's absolutely entitled to her boundaries and her fans absolutely need to respect them, but she also shouldn't be projecting them onto everyone else.

[Rainah]

Posted: 3/25/20 at 9:20pm

I also know an actress who describes the stagedoor as the highlight of her day. That experience is valid, just as BWW's is. I'm not here to demonize the stagedoor. But we, as fans, need to

1. vocally push for shows to encourage people to stagedoor or not stagedoor, as they prefer

2. be kind and generous with actors when they do stagedoor, and police the behaviour of anyone with bad manners or ill intentions. If that girl's father had grabbed her before she could assault BWW, or someone had told that guy "Hey BWW doesn't sign, you should leave it alone", then this might not have happened. In general, make the stagedoor a place that won't tolerate disrespect. We set the tone. 

3. defend any actor that chooses not to stagedoor, including actors who don't want to ever, and actors who may do it or not do it depending on how they feel, or actors who just want to wave and say thanks on their way out. It's an extra gift, not required, and should be treated as such. 

 

Basically, make it safer for actors to come out if they want to, and safer for them to refuse if they prefer to go straight home.