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My Stepson Took My Panties, Help!


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My Stepson Took My Panties, Help!

#1
Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:13pm
Without being too graphic, lately several pairs of my underwear have gone missing. I am married to a man with two teenagers from his first marriage; my stepson and my stepdaughter stay with us each weekend. I am in my early 30s. Some relatives visited my husband and me for the holiday weekend, and some stayed in my stepson's room. While cleaning his room in preparation for their arrival I discovered several pairs of my underwear crammed into a "secret space," as well as some pictures of me in a bikini. I'm trying not to feel weird around my stepson, because I remember the unpredictable crushes I developed as a result of my hormones. But I buy nice underwear, and I would like him to stop taking mine. I'm not sure if I should tell my husband about his son's crush and ask him to deal with this or if I should casually ask my stepson to stop. What do you think the least embarrassing option is?
I am not printing Prudie's answer because we can come up with MUCH better advice
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#2
Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:19pm
Take him shopping for his own!!!
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#2
Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:20pm
That was my first thought Diva! And DO NOT tell dad! No good can come of that.
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#3
Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:24pm
OK, that's creepy.
KFTC!!!!!
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#4
Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:41pm
I was half way through the first post before I realized it wasnt about you, joe!
"Carson has combined his passion for helping children with his love for one of Cincinnati's favorite past times - cornhole - to create a unique and exciting event perfect for a corporate outing, entertaining clients or family fun."

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#5
Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:46pm
Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. In many ways, I see myself as a good-looking step-mom in her early thirties. If I DID have a teenage boy around the house, he'd almost certainly be stealing my panties.
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#6
Posted: 5/30/12 at 4:43pm
I'd like to know how old the teen stepson is. 13 is one thing, 18 quite another.

Either way, a one-to-one talk about respecting stepmother's privacy is in order.
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#8
Posted: 5/30/12 at 4:51pm
Jordan, what if she does that and the obsession intensifies?
"The sexual energy between the mother and son really concerns me!"-random woman behind me at Next to Normal "I want to meet him after and bang him!"-random woman who exposed her breasts at Rock of Ages, referring to James Carpinello
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#9
Posted: 5/30/12 at 6:15pm
Seriously. I'd take the panties and leave a note- "Flattered, but really- SO inappropriate. You better knock it off. But If you want to come to my Book Club Friday I'll introduce you to my friends."
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#10
Posted: 5/30/12 at 6:42pm
Its tacky to discuss your husband's son's problems on a public board! Like it or not, you are a parent figure to the boy and you should act accordingly. There are more issues here than your "nice underwear".
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#11
Posted: 5/30/12 at 6:47pm
Who is that directed at?
"TheatreDiva90016 - another good reason to frequent these boards less."<<>> “I hesitate to give this line of discussion the validation it so desperately craves by perpetuating it, but the light from logic is getting further and further away with your every successive post.” <<>> -whatever2
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#12
Posted: 5/30/12 at 6:48pm
This isn't the POSTERS promplem....it was printed in a publication.

It also isn't the step son's problem, its the mums.
If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it? These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.
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#13
Posted: 5/30/12 at 7:26pm
As if the thread title wasn't enough, ArtMan's response was priceless! OMG, I can't stop laughing.
Hey Dottie! Did your colleagues enjoy the cake even though your cat decided to sit on it? ~GuyfromGermany
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#14
Posted: 5/30/12 at 9:19pm
Well it's unclear if the boy is hot for mom or wants to be Dr. Frank N. Furter. There's a teachable moment in here somewhere.

Why don't NBC's "The More You Know" PSAs deal with these type of concerns.
"The sexual energy between the mother and son really concerns me!"-random woman behind me at Next to Normal "I want to meet him after and bang him!"-random woman who exposed her breasts at Rock of Ages, referring to James Carpinello
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#15
Posted: 5/30/12 at 10:31pm
Betty, he had panties AND photos of mom (Me!) in a bikini. I think he was sniffing the panties, not wearing them.
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#16
Posted: 5/30/12 at 11:33pm
Maybe the pics of mom were for his consult at the plastic surgeon. We should not jump to conclusions.

We all know good parenting means going into the room while the young man is pleasuring himself, snatching the panties and the pics, slap him, shame him and send a clear message that sexual expression is dirty and wrong and not to be discussed.

That'll fix him good.
"The sexual energy between the mother and son really concerns me!"-random woman behind me at Next to Normal "I want to meet him after and bang him!"-random woman who exposed her breasts at Rock of Ages, referring to James Carpinello
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#17
Posted: 5/31/12 at 11:44am
OMG, I'm laughing!!!!!
KFTC!!!!!
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#18
Posted: 5/31/12 at 11:47am
Betty, my husband and I already do that role-play. This is going to be exhausting.
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#19
Posted: 5/31/12 at 1:14pm
"I was half way through the first post before I realized it wasnt about you, joe!"

ME TOO!
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#20
Posted: 5/31/12 at 1:33pm
I can neither confirm nor deny that this is my letter. I have been disappointed that more people haven't offered me advice, however.
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#21
Posted: 5/31/12 at 2:23pm
I think this is fake...joe doesn't wear underwear!
"Carson has combined his passion for helping children with his love for one of Cincinnati's favorite past times - cornhole - to create a unique and exciting event perfect for a corporate outing, entertaining clients or family fun."

"In Oz, the verb is douchifizzation." PRS

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#22
Posted: 5/31/12 at 2:31pm
OK, here's some advice: do without. This way your stepson won't have anything to steal.

Regarding the bikini picture, do without that, too.
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#23
Posted: 6/1/12 at 10:56pm
How dumb can you people be? So obvious, OBVIOUS that step-daughter stole and planted the panties. That bee-yatch always has been jealous of stepmom and son. She knows this bit will mess up the "new" family.

The whole lot of them ought to take the next Metroliner to The Steve Wilkos Show.
"Through The Sacrifice You Made, We Can't Believe The Price You Paid..For Love!"
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#24
Posted: 6/1/12 at 11:36pm
Well, Joe, is your stepson cute?
"All our dreams can come true -- if we have the courage to pursue them." -- Walt Disney We must have different Gods. My God said "do to others what you would have them do to you". Your God seems to have said "My Way or the Highway".
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#25
Posted: 12/30/12 at 4:51pm
I must say there is alot of apathy in this replies. Like you I have also had the same problem. I find the carass replies quite disturbing. I like you, have come to the internet to find advice from others for the same problem before bringing it up to my fiance. It completely weirds me out about his obsession. I wish the best for you and if you have any advice on what works when you get the problem resolved please let me know as well.