The Sex M.D., Madeleine Castellanos, Releases New Book

Madeleine Castellanos M.D., medical doctor and psychiatrist specializing in the treatment of sexual dysfunction introduces, Wanting to Want: What Kills Your Sex Life and How to Keep It Alive revealing the secrets millions struggle with every day from loss of sexual desire, how to keep it alive and reigniting passion in a long term relationship.

"My mission is to provide factual, honest and open information about sexuality so people can enjoy long-lasting pleasure and enhanced intimacy," says Dr. Castellanos. "My new book sites the most common obstacles that create challenges with sexual pleasure and desire, from a sex therapist's point of view and provides simple tips for getting back on track. Everyone is capable of having a happy sex life and this book is the map that can show them the way."

Some points from the book include:

1. Most people don't realize the many different ways their sex lives can quickly get derailed. Sexual difficulties are often a combination of diverse factors-most likely not physical in origin. By addressing the real cause of sexual issues, rather than just one symptom, a person can get the most out of their sexual relationship.
2. Perhaps the most common obstacle to sexual pleasure is being disconnected from the experience. Anxiety, distraction and patterns of avoidance (to name a few) can ruin your sense of pleasure and cause a death blow to sexual desire. There are some practical exercises to help re-establish that crucial connection.
3. Did you know that everything you have ever heard growing up about sex shapes your attitudes and even your personal experience of sex? The idea that each encounter is experienced just as it is has been scientifically proven to be false. Couples can enhance their sexual relationship by protecting it from being hijacked by expectations that are either too idealistic or too negative.
4. There continues to be a flood of messages prompting people to think that their sexual pleasure is dependent on the actions or a special quality of another person. That is a myth that should be debunked as each person must take responsibility for their own sexual arousal and just how to achieve it.
5. Strong sexual desire requires not just time devoted to sexual satisfaction, but also a positive mental experience of sex. There is a practical necessity in not just making physical space for the erotic in one's life, but also the element of psychological and emotional erotic space as well.
6. Anger and resentment can have a lasting detrimental effect on sexual desire and create a seemingly insurmountable distance between partners. There are tips for couples to keep it from affecting their sexual pleasure and relationship.
7. Physical causes of sexual problems are often complex and can be affected by so many factors. It's important to understand the physical aspect of sexual problems and understand the myths about hormones and practical advice for maintaining a healthy sexual functioning for life.

Madeleine M. Castellanos M.D. is a board-certified psychiatrist specializing in the treatment of sexual dysfunction and the improvement of sex life for couples and individuals. She is committed to helping others learn about their own sexuality and how to achieve physical and emotional balance in their sex lives and is fluent in Spanish and English.