'You Will See Your Baby in Heaven,' Addresses Topic of Stillbirth
Thanks to a unique new book, "You Will See Your Baby in Heaven: A Man's Perspective of Stillbirth," fathers can learn how to handle the loss of a stillborn child from someone who has suffered the same tragedy.
"You Will See Your Baby in Heaven" is distinctive on a number of levels. Unlike other books that are written as memorials to the authors and their lost children, it does not focus on author Drew Kelly, his wife, Mai, and his deceased son, Reagan. Instead, the book was created as a resource to parents, particularly fathers, who need help and hope while dealing with such a life-altering event. In addition, "You Will See Your Baby in Heaven" was written by an "average Joe" who has been through the experience about which he writes. "It's not theoretical; it's from a dad to a dad who needs help," Kelly explained. "There are virtually no other resources out there for men on this subject."
While "You Will See Your Baby in Heaven" is primarily geared for fathers of stillborn babies, mothers who have experienced stillbirth can also benefit from reading the faith-based material. The book is filled with spiritual and practical information that can help parents immediately. It informs fathers of stillborn children how to lead their families through their devastating circumstances, as well as provides both parents hope that they will meet their stillborn child in heaven. It also addresses some of the challenges and painful situations that parents of stillborn babies will encounter in the future, such as seeing pregnant women, newborns and other reminders of their loss. The author's personal tragedy, interestingly, took place in Japan, where the traditions surrounding death, birth and religion are quite different from the West. "Many readers have commented that although they have lost children, seeing about how Japan and other cultures deal with death made the book a fascinating read," Kelly said.
Kelly did not set out to write a book. In fact, he had no desire to share his experience in such an open format. However, he was driven by a belief that God wanted him to pen the book. Writing and editing the book was so challenging and stressful that Kelly gained 20 pounds during the process. His efforts culminated with nearly 150 pages of powerful material carefully crafted to help heal the hearts and lives of hurting parents of stillborn children. Kelly's informative book includes chapters, such as Is My Baby in Heaven, Should I Have a Funeral, Will I Ever Be Able to Live Normally Again, How Can I Best Support My Wife, What About Having More Children and A Message of Hope.