BWW Interviews: Eliminated Bachelorette Sarah Dishes on THE BACHELOR
26-year-old Sarah Herron's run on this season's The Bachelor came to a close this week in beautiful Alberta, Canada when Sean, out of compassion, said his goodbye even before the rose ceremony. Feeling it was for the best, Sean attempted to let Sarah down easily. Now with her journey cut short, how does the advertising executive from Los Angeles, CA feel about Sean and the women who are left battling to win his heart?
Herron recently spoke about her experience on the ABC dating competition!
Are you feeling at all now that it was not the right decision to do the show?
Oh, absolutely not. I have never ever regretted one moment of participating on The Bachelor. It was really and truly this life changing journey, and there's no better way to put it. And for me, it was every bit of a life changing experience. And it was very cathartic and self actualizing. And I learned so much about myself and what I'm looking for. And it - you know, (it's helped me) understand me better. And so, in no way do I regret any of the process. I think it all has helped me become who I am today. And you know, that's - it's just part of the learning curve of life. And I don't regret any second of participating on the show.
Did you have a feeling that you would be going home this week or did you feel completely blindsided at the moment?
I definitely did not expect to be going home. I felt - I was very surprised and very caught off guard. And I did have every intention of wanting to bring Sean home and take him to Colorado and introduce him to my family. However, the week before in Montana, Sean you know, made his speech and said that he'd felt his relationship had taken a step back with a few Girls and a step forward with a few other girls.
And there was a part of me, deep down, that was concerned I was - I might have been one of those Girls that he was talking about. Because we were now you know, five weeks into the process or so, and it becomes difficult to continue to develop these relationships while he's developing relationships with the other girls.
So, I definitely was a little uneasy when he said he felt his relationships had taken a step back. And that's why, in Canada, I felt it - extremely important to reassure him why I was there and that I had the right intentions and that my heart was in it and I wanted to take it to the next step.
In your final words you said you were very embarrassed. Was that the only reason you were so upset or was there more to it than that? Had you actually fallen in love with Sean at that point?
I had very strong feelings for Sean. And I think it's just - it's human Nature to feel embarrassed when you're - you know, dumped on television and you cry, and you let yourself be as vulnerable as I let myself be. You know, I don't think I've ever let America - or let alone my coworkers and friends see me as vulnerable as I was on the show. And so, you just feel a little embarrassed that you put it all Out There and somebody didn't want to Take It All in. And so, it was just - it was hard. And yes, it's just - it was a little embarrassing.
Sean thought he was doing you a favor by sending you home two days early. But at the same time, he kind of singled you out. Do you agree with Sean's theory that it was best for you, or looking back on things, do you wish he had allowed you to go through the rose ceremony?
Absolutely not. I think Sean handled it the best way. He and I actually did have a conversation. And I said you know, if I'm one of these Girls that you ever feel our relationship is taking a step back, I want to talk about it, and I want to know about it. And I think we can communicate about what's going on. And please just - I don't want to be the last girl standing at a rose ceremony without a rose, without an explanation, just you know, completely shocked.
So, he knew that I was asking for an explanation. And I think that's what he gave me. And he said here's a girl who doesn't want to be you know, strung along, and she wants to be told how it is. And he respected that. And I think it's great. And I - even though I'm not happy with the way things turned out, I respect the way he handled it. And he - I don't think he could have done it any better.
As far as Tierra's medical emergency on the last episode, did you believe she was suffering from hypothermia?
I think - we were all very, very cold. And knowing Tierra the way I know her now, I think she's just a very highly sensitive person. And she was under a lot of stress and a lot of pressure. And I think the circumstances of the group date, combined with everything that she's probably going through emotionally and psychologically, it just kind of all combusted.
And whether she overreacted or actually had hypothermia, I'm not sure. And quite frankly, at this point, I don't even really care anymore, because it just seems like every week, something - it was something else. Whereas, you know, the rest of us had no problem just embracing the cold and absorbing the adrenalin you were getting from it. It seemed - it just seemed overdramatic when she got sick.
Obviously, you'll never really know what was going through Sean's mind, but it was such a surprise to see that he sent Selma home this week. Do you think that had to do with the fact that she decided not to take part in the polar bear plunge?
Yes. I have no idea what Sean's real reasonings were for sending Selma home. I think there's probably more to it than I know or any of the other Girls understand or America. And definitely, maybe not participating in the polar bear plunge contributed to it, because I thing Sean really wants a girl that can you know, go with the flow and is down for some adventure. And Selma wasn't really having it.
But at the same time, like, I can't blame her. And I don't think Sean blames her, (that's just not) who she is. And she was not - she wasn't sorry about it. And she stuck to her guns. And you have to respect that. And you know I - for whatever reason they didn't work out. I'm not sure, but I'm sure there's plenty of (good reason).
Who do you feel is best for Sean to end up with?
Oh, you know, watching back, I'm really starting to see the chemistry build between Sean and Catherine, which I didn't (see a whole) lot of while I was you know, in the filming process. And watching it back, I'm seeing like this really special connection between the two of them that's undeniable. And I think - I think it's great. What I'm seeing between Sean and Catherine looks pretty great.
And as far as him lasting with whoever he chooses, I think it - he will, because Sean said you know, he only wants to be engaged once. And he's not in it to mess around. He's really looking for his wife. So, I think Sean is the type of guy who's going to be very selective in who he chooses and then he's going to nurture and make sure that the relationship can withstand anything. I think, you know, he'll make it work.
Do you think Sean might be able to find lasting love with Tierra?
I don't see Tierra and Sean being much of a match at all. I think - I think he's probably very surprised, watching it back now, because I don't think he saw much of what we saw Tierra as in the house. You know, he wasn't - he wasn't seeing that. He made that clear in Tuesday's episode that he was starting to realize - he was getting a different Tierra than the Girls in the house were. So, I don't - I don't personally feel a lasting connection between the two of them.
A lot of what we saw of you on the show revolved around your arm. And it seemed like your self consciousness about it came up pretty frequently, particularly with the various physical activities. Is that something that actually affects your confidence on a daily basis or is it something that you're more or less at peace with and it was more for TV?
That's a good question. Definitely, having one arm has always, always affected my self confidence. And it's definitely given me insecurities. But I have come (to peace) with it. And I know how to be myself and you know, not let it be an obstacle in my life.
And on the show, I think it came - it became a big topic, because we constantly were in these physical activities. I mean let's be honest, every single group date was you know, ok, let's milk a goat. Well, guess what, you have to have two hands to milk a goat. And canoeing, you know, I did it, but it was tough.
It - you know, nothing came easy for me. And that's ok. And I expected that that might have happened, going into the show. But you know, really, I can't say oh the show made it look like I was always talking about my arm, because really and truly, I was in situations where my arm affected my ability to participate. And it affected my confidence with Sean. So, it just was kind of unusual and unfortunate how often it came to light. But really, my day to day life is not revolved around the fact that I have one arm.
If the opportunity came up to be the Bachelorette, is that something that you would be interested in or are you done with the TV love thing?
I think I would have to (seriously) consider it, because, as I mentioned earlier, the experience was probably one of the most life changing experiences of my life. And like I said, I learned more about myself than I could have ever imagined. And I became more vulnerable than I've ever - being with anybody in my life.
I mean you have to consider that up until this show, I never walked around talking about my arm to anybody, anybody. And now, I can open - really talk about it. And you know, my coworkers suddenly feel more comfortable and confident talking to me about questions they might have always had, but never felt comfortable asking me.
And I feel like the show has been an outlet for just a lot of like, self discovery. On - however, I don't - I don't want to just sit around talking about my arm forever. And I don't know if I could do another whole season of that, but at the same time, like I still want to find love. Let's look at the big picture here, I'm still single. And I do want a boyfriend. And I want a husband. And I want to find that special guy. So, you know, there's still a lot to consider.
It seemed that Sean decided he wanted to eliminate you when you showed him all those photos of your family. Do you think things might have played out differently had you waited to show him the pictures until a little later on?
Yes. I've definitely thought about that. And I don't think it would have changed Sean's mind. I think Sean had a pretty good idea about his feelings for me, and his feelings for the other women. And you know, the process of this show, it moves so fast, and you need to be confident and sure of how you're feeling.
And whether I showed him photos of my family on night one or you know, at the fantasy suite, I don't think those photographs changed how he was feeling about me. I think he knew how he felt. And the photographs just probably made him realize, ok, I need to be honest with this girl sooner than later, because I don't want to hurt her.
Do you have a theory on why Sean might have had a change of heart about you?
Yes. I think - I think honestly, getting the first one on one date, as incredible and magical as it was, I think it was kind of a curse, because we've - had an amazing connection right off the bat, and then I had to sit back and you know, just wait for him to develop these relationships with all of the other women, who each week, I'm sure, a New Girl is like stepping into the - into the forefront.
And so, it was just like with each week it became more and more difficult to sustain a connection while he was being introduced to all these other women. And it just - it got - it gets really hard. And I don't have the answer and that's why I was so confused. And it's hard to understand how somebody can like you so much in the beginning and feelings fizzle.
I mean I think that's true for anybody in any relationship that's not worked out. You're always left wondering why. Well, why not? Like, you used to like me so much. You used to love me, and why do you not now? So, it's just a very, very confusing and sad feeling.
What can you tell us about Catherine, because until this week, viewers hadn't really seen much of her.
Catherine until this point, has been a little of a dark horse. You know, she hasn't gotten too much airtime, and in the house, she wasn't even getting much time with Sean. So, it's really interesting and exciting to see it all unfold. And I'm happy for her, because you know, it's hard to see Sean developing these feelings with girls, but I watched their date in Canada, and it's just hard - it's - I don't know, it warms me inside to watch them and know that they were developing this great connection, because they didn't see it in the house.
She was one of the last Girls to get a one on one. And so it just makes me happy to see that they were - they were building those feelings. And Catherine is such a down to earth real, real girl that it just makes me happy to see she got to open up with Sean.
What about Ashley, Lindsay, Lesley and Desiree? Do you have any general thoughts on those girls? Do any of them stand out to you as being better for Sean than the others?
I always have thought Lesley is a great connection for Sean. You know, it's so interesting now that I am no longer on it and I don't know what happens, but I think Leslie is great. And I think Lindsay's tremendous. Lindsay was probably one of my better friends in the house. She's such a sweet girl and has the biggest heart. She's just like this tiny ball of fun and so, she's wonderful.
And (Ashley) has the biggest heart, obviously, everyone is seeing that. And Desiree's fun and spunky and very real. Daniella is awesome, but she - I think she went home after me too, I guess so - who - am I (missing) anybody? They're all - I mean the Girls are all so great. I loved all of them.
After your elimination, you seemed to feel like this situation has happened to you before, you fall for a guy, and then he breaks your heart.
Honestly, it saddened me to think that I've been through that situation so many times. But I can't tell you how many times I will begin to date a guy and start going down this road and get the same story you know, several weeks into it. You're great. You're funny. You're sweet. You have the biggest heart, but there just isn't a connection. Or you know, I'm not right for you. And you (deserve) someone so much better and you deserve someone who's going to treat you amazing.
I've been told that more times than I can count. And I think a lot of Girls can relate to that. We've probably all been told that at some point. But I feel like, for whatever reason, it just happens all the time to me. And so, I knew where Sean was going. And the second he sat me down, I knew what he was going to do. I knew he was sending me home.
And it's just like is aid on the show, I knew what he was going to say but I wanted to hear his explanation because I'm just - it was like déjà vu. I've been there. I've sat in that very same place so many times, and I always get the same answer. And so, I just wanted to hear it again, I guess I don't know why I keep getting told that.
We all know he's there looking for his wife and so, I can't blame him for not feeling it with me. I think it's not fair to say like oh, he was just you know, giving me the same line that every guy does, because I know that's what I said. But he deserves more credit than that. He was sweet and honest about it.
But I'm just saying from a personal standpoint, I am confused why I always get told that. Like, I'm confused why none of the guys in my life have ever felt like I am that guy that deserves you. And I'm going to be the guy that treats you amazing. That's what confuses me and makes me sad. So, there's no hard feelings toward Sean. And I don't blame him, like I said, I just - I'm confused, from my perspective you know, who this guy is going to be and when he's going to come along.
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