BWW INTERVIEWS: THE BACHELOR'S Desiree Tells All!
On last week's 'Hometown' episode of ABC's THE BACHELOR, Desiree Hartsock, a 26-year-old bridal stylist from Los Angeles, spent a day of hiking and cooking with Sean before her ex-boyfriend showed up and demanded to have a word with her. It was all a prank to get back at Sean for the art gallery hidden camera stunt Sean had pulled on Des earlier in the season.
But the jokes were no longer funny when Sean had to withstand a blistering and insulting attack by Desiree's brother later in the episode. Upset at the confrontation, Desiree made a desperate move at the rose ceremony, apologizing to Sean for her brother, but it was too late. Sean sent her home. How does she feel about Sean's decision? Does she regret Sean meeting her family, especially her brother? Desiree spoke about her experience on the show and revealed whether she still believes Sean made the biggest mistake of his life.
Sean said that your brother really didn't have anything to do with his decision to let you go. Do you agree with that?
I don't think that my brother helped my chances. I think that it did have something to do with Sean's decision. But ultimately, you know, he made the best decision that he could. And maybe there will be a better explanation at the 'Women Tell All' show.
When he did let you go, you kept saying that you felt like he had made a terrible mistake. Do you still think it was a mistake to let you go when he did?
In the moment, I felt that he had. That we had the best connection that embodied all the qualities that he wanted in a wife. So, in that moment, I did feel it was a terrible mistake. And we didn't have enough time. However, looking back, you know, he did have great relationships with the other girls. And all things happen for a reason. So, I don't think it was a mistake.
The other night after you were sent home, [former Bachelorette] Ali Fedotowsky tweeted, 'the next Bachelorette just went home' Do you have any comments on that? Is that something you'd be interested in?
You know, this being on The Bachelor was a very emotionally draining experience to go through. And, I mean, if I were offered the opportunity to be the next Bachelorette, I would definitely have to think about it and give it some thought. And make sure I'm prepared to get back onto that emotional rollercoaster.
But, I do believe in the experience. And I know first hand that the feelings are real. And I do believe that it can work out for the best. So, I'd probably say yes to the opportunity.
CHRIS HARRISON told T.V. Guide in a recent interview that when Sean eliminated you, he was pretty sure the Bachelor, quote "let go of the love of his life." Does that surprise you? Do you agree with CHRIS HARRISON on that?
From the beginning, I feel that Sean and I had a natural chemistry that really did shine. I think a lot of people could see that. But being in those circumstances it does change. And it's not all about just having chemistry.
So, I don't know. I don't really know what to say to that. Because Sean knew what he was doing with each relationship. And like I said, he made the best decision that he could. So, I think he ended up choosing the love of his life. And that's not me.
Many viewers expected you to go home and be angry at your brother. But that doesn't seem to be the case. It's almost like you seem a little mad at Sean for letting (Nathan) influence his decision about your relationship. Is that accurate to say?
I'm not mad. I was never mad at Sean. And in that moment, I was very, very upset with my brother. I know that my brother was very skeptical of the whole experience and of the show. But I had no idea it was going to go that far. Because, of course, I don't justify anything that my brother said.
And I don't justify the way he said it to Sean. But, he was protecting me. And he had a strong opinion about our relationship,. He didn't feel that Sean was going to be the right guy for me. So looking back, I can't be mad at my brother and stay mad at him. Because it all works out, you know, for the better. I can move on and know that Sean and I aren't meant to be together.
Now that Sean let you go home, who do you think is the best fit for him out of the last three?
You know, I really don't have a biased opinion on that. All of the remaining Girls they have very unique and different qualities from each other that I know Sean would be attracted to. So, you know, I really don't have an opinion on who he should choose. I just know that he'll end up making the right decision.
Are you still in contact with Sean and any of the other Girls from the show?
No, I am definitely not in contact with Sean. I do speak to a few of the Girls that are really close friends. From the House I became friends with pretty much everyone. But, I connected most and became greater friends with, with Jackie, Wendy, and Daniela.
What did you think about how Sean defended himself with your brother during the hometown dates?
I actually think he handled himself really well. Because I know my brother - the way he presents himself - can be pretty intense. I honestly think Sean handled it really, really well. And I know it really made him upset. And he still held back. And still stood up for himself. So, I think he did well.
Do you still think Sean is the farthest thing from Playboy after watching the show?
You know I think on the show, you have to date like 25 women at one time. But, I don't consider that a playboy. I think that's just the circumstances. So, I still think he's as far away from being a playboy as anyone could be.
During the 'Sean Tells All' special this week, Sean said that there were other things lacking in your relationship compared to his relationships with the other women. Do you have any idea what he might have been referring to?
Yes, you know, it's a very different experience to be in. It's not every day you share a boyfriend with other girls. So, looking back and watching the show, I do realize that maybe I did put up a guard more so than the other girls. It may not have looked like it after viewing. But, I really did. I was holding back a little bit more than I think a lot of the other Girls were. Because I wanted to make sure that he was right for me. And not just me being right for him.
And so that takes time. And it takes me a little bit longer to really say I love you. Because I want it to be right. And I think it's hard. You have to share so much in so little time.
When you were having your last exchange with Sean after the Rose Ceremony, you mentioned that all you do is give to people and they tend to take you for granted. Would you mind elaborating on that a little bit?
Yes, you know, I was referring mainly to past relationships. And even friendships because I do care more about other people than I do myself. So, a lot of times people take that for granted and take advantage of it. But, mainly that was just past relationships that I was referring to. And for some reason in that moment, I was feeling the same I guess.
What was your best experience being on the show?
My best experience; you know, there's so many to choose from. I can't even begin. Just to have some relationships with such amazing Girls was really a surprising gift from the show. Man, I don't even knoW. Maybe also being able to be in a relationship. And see how it evolves. I think that was really interesting too. And, you know, opening my eyes to other things that I could have in relationships, or bring to relationships.
Were you surprised about anything that they showed on an episode?
No, I'm actually not surprised by any of the editing. Everything that was shown did happen.
Are you still devastated over Sean or are you over it now?
After being let go, it didn't feel right and I was really upset. But, I'm also such a positive person that I knew that he was doing what he needed to do. And I've moved on. - I'm completely over it. And I wish him the best. And I know that I'll eventually find my prince charming.
Don't miss Monday night's episode of The Bachelor on ABC. Romantic adventures await Sean and the final three women - AshLee, Catherine and Lindsay - as they travel to spectacular Si Kao, Thailand. From an authentic Thai market with unusual foods to a secluded beach surrounded by a rain forest to a sexy afternoon boat ride on Thailand's sparkling waters, the dates are filled with passion and excitement as Sean continues to explore what his future would be like with each of these potential mates.
At the end of the evening Sean will present each bachelorette with an invitation to spend an intimate night together in a "fantasy suite," with the hope that she will accept. But will she? This week finishes with Sean making his most painful decision yet and leaving one devastated and inconsolable bachelorette not talking to him at all, on "The Bachelor," MONDAY, FEBRUARY 25 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET), on the ABC Television Network.
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