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This is incredibly off-topic (hence posted here) I need advice on love.

Boq101
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Do any of you ever feel upset because you're happy?

During my very short life I've never been in a meaningful relationship, and in my regular most things I do don't make me happy or don't thrill me, because something usually happens that makes every victory bittersweet. I am now in a good relationship with a great girl I love, but she can read my eyes so well she knows what's going on with me before I do. She keeps asking me why I'm upset. I told her I didn't know, but I think it's because I'm waiting for something terrible to happen because so far everything's going great, almost like I can't wait to screw something up. Is that bad?

NO, I am not drunk, I am sleep depraved (deprived?)
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Make this your sole resolution for the new year - SEE A THERAPIST! Don't wait.
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Who the heck are you????
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I'm no therapist, but it sounds like you have low self-esteem which is manifesting itself in all these negative
self-fulfilling prophecies.

It seems like you're trying to convince yourself how great she is. What about how great you are? She's just as lucky to be with you as you as you are to be with her.

Stop fretting about what you might do to cause a break up and focus on all the good in your relationship and ways that you can move forward and deepen it.

Btw, this isn't that uncommon, but it does require a major shift in your basic outlook.
You'll either outgrow your present state of mind, or you may need to talk to someone.
....but the world goes 'round
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taz, send the boy a bill. No free advice here!
It is ridiculous to set a detective story in New York City. New York City is itself a detective story... AGATHA CHRISTIE, Life magazine, May 14, 1956
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Boq101, Darling... I don't know what underlying issues you may be dealing with. A therapist could certainly help, consider it.

But judging strictly on what you wrote, I'd say you have an issue with a fundamental reality of life: circumstances change- sometimes for better, sometimes for worse.

The sooner you truly accept this the sooner you can start
1. Appreciating the good times.
2. Developing the maturity to deal with the challenging times.

It is a new year. You have your life ahead of you. You'll be just fine.

Happy New Year, sweetie.
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Thanks guys, I feel better now, just by those two responses, I'm such a queen sometimes.
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Sometimes you're happy
Sometimes you're sad,
But the world....goes....round.

Sometimes you lose
Every nickel you had,
But the world....goes....round.

etc, etc,--look up any Liza Minnelli album for the rest.
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Or if this gal doesn't work out, take a walk on the wild side.
No good can possibly come from using this vast wasteland of error and deliberate deceit. You should get off of it and warn others away. You should make sure your children and grandchildren know what a corrupt and morally bankrupt institution it truly is.
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Nice, well-thought responses!

(...except Joe who's playing recruitment officer AGAIN.)

Good luck to you, boq101.
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Seriously, once you get to college and start dating guys you'll feel a lot better.
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Good thing I didn't go with my original advice:

Ditch the bitch 'n' make the switch.
No good can possibly come from using this vast wasteland of error and deliberate deceit. You should get off of it and warn others away. You should make sure your children and grandchildren know what a corrupt and morally bankrupt institution it truly is.
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You homos and your "ways"...
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it's that radical gay agenda besty. It's everywhere.
....but the world goes 'round
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Bigger than Bingo!

Sellin' like hotcakes!



When in doubt... Blow, Gabriel, blow!
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It does make me wonder how he went from seeing a great girl to being a big queen sometimes . . .
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Oh relax everyone. I have incredibly delicate gaydar. By reading his post I get the idea that young Boq has at least experimented with 'the love that dare not speak it's name' already. This heterosexuality is ill-considered.
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You must have crystal balls.
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Is that how they're selling meth these days?
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I'm bi, am I that obvious?

Anyway, we talked, it's all good now, I'm a bit more stable, you're all free to throw men at me if you must.
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I, too, would like to sign up for the free men-throwing. Is that like a Ham Of The Month club?
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When in doubt... Blow, Gabriel, blow!

Oh my God, thank you for that!
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