Despite the confines of a long U.S. Military and Federal Government career, I have always been "out" as a queer man. There was no actual coming out. I have shared my life with one man for more than 50 years, in an open, honest, happy and loving relationship.
I came out as gay at 14 but wasn’t able to fully accept and embrace who I was until 17. Even though I wasn’t entirely at peace with this facet of my identity, coming out did make me feel so much better because I no longer had to carry around the weight of something that felt like a secret.
I turned 32 last month and couldn't be happier about being gay.